Posts Tagged ‘Vietnam’

10
Jan

Why nobody in Vietnam will love me

   Posted by: Chip    in fun, Vietnam

(Expanded from a debate on Facebook)

As I talked to my parents recently, they are very anxious that I find a boyfriend because they are afraid nobody in Vietnam will marry me. The reasons are simple.

Because in Vietnam, I’m ugly

Admit it, to love somebody, first you have to find that person attractive. However, the definition of beauty is dramatically different from a culture to another. We Vietnamese always think that the Westerners have a weird taste. In Vietnam, we have a fixed guideline to beauty which means you have to look like this, like that to be considered beautiful. For example, a girl has to have fair skin, long black hair, pigeon’s eyes, etc. An English friend of mine who has been to Vietnam once complained that all the girls in Vietnam have exactly one hairstyle. In Western culture, they like those who look a bit different.

When I was in Vietnam, I was very insecure about my look. People constantly made fun of my wavy fluffy hair, my round face. My Mom was so disappointed to find out that I’m so tanned that my skin looks as dark as buffalo skin. A newspaper once wrote about me something like: “She might not have beauty but she has guts” (assholes, yess >”<).

Because in Vietnam, I’m domestically incapable

In Vietnam, girls are supposed to all the housework. When I was in Vietnam, whenever we had a celebration, my female cousins and I would have to wash all the dishes and cook all the food while all the boys just hung around playing cards or doing all kinds of mischief. If I asked my Mom why my brother didn’t have to work, she would scold me: “You are a girl, don’t ask such a silly question. People will laugh at you if you do.” (!!??).

So now, I have a resentment against housework and lazy men. I don’t mind doing things for myself, but I would never do everything while my boyfriend just sat there and played video games. People say that a lot of Vietnamese men nowadays are more open-minded. But who wouldn’t want a girlfriend that his family and friends think of as “đảm đang”, or I call it “domestically capable”? Try to take home a girl that his family can’t use as a domestic slave you will know.

Because in Vietnam, I’m corrupt

In Vietnam, girls are supposed to keep a low profile, to always be soft and meek. I’m outspoken, I don’t give a damn to mannerism. My family thinks that my body-painting photo is a shame. A Vietnamese guy few year older than me called me “ill-bred” just because I dared to argue with him.

Every time I call home, my Mom always asks: “Are you still a good girl. Everybody (in our hometown) is saying that only bad girls can travel that much.” Ha, I have no idea how they define “bad”, or I can’t see any correlation between “traveling” and “being a bad girl”, but apparently, a lot of rednecks believe that I’m a waste. In Vietnam, if a girl drinks alcohol, she’s spoilt. If she smokes, she has no hope. If she goes clubbing, she’s a whore. If she travels like me, she is a combination of all 3 things mentioned above.

So yeah, I’m doomed.

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8
Aug

Aug 7, 2011: I found a job

   Posted by: Chip    in Ethiopia, Travel Life

Supervisor at a cafeteria called Ice Blue – just 15 mins walking from Mika’s place.

1000 Bir (~$55) + free food. 2 days a week I can order anything from the menu and the rest of the week 3 tough meals a day. The salary for 1 month here is like 1 hour pay in Israel.

And that salary is already 4 times more than a normal waiter.

If I spend absolutely nothing which is apparently impossible, I’ll have to work for 6 whole months to save $300 to go Kenya.

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8
Aug

Aug 6, 2011: AIESEC Ethiopia

   Posted by: Chip    in Ethiopia, Travel Life

I called Elena, and joined her for the AIESEC Ethiopia meeting. It turned out that Elena is Italian! She has been here for only 1 month and she managed to set up AIESEC Ethiopia. What a girl!

The meeting was fun at first, then it got long and I almost fell asleep. I still wasn’t sure how I would participate in AIESEC Ethiopia. They told me that they needed to talk to AIESEC Vietnam first. But it seems like they are looking for somebody to do media for BarCamp Ethiopia. Wow, you’ve met the right person!

After that, I joined them to Jupiter hotel – a fancy hotel to use their free and fast Wi-fi. Internet is monopolized in Ethiopia, and it is hopeless. People don’t have Internet at home, and even if they do, Internet is too slow that it can’t even function Skype. The number of cafes that have wi-fi can be counted with fingers on one hand. There are two hotels that have free wi-fi: Jupiter and Intercontinental.

I wanted bread and butter for dinner, but there is a great butter shortage in Ethiopia. They only have imported butter at a ridiculous price. So I just bought instant noodles and cabbage and made myself an awesome meal.

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7
Aug

Aug 3-4, 2011: Illegal in Egypt

   Posted by: Chip    in Backpacker's Challenges, Egypt

Warning: I’m trying to record everything that happens to me, so my writing might be rambling and boring.

By accident, I was in Cairo, illegally.

I arrived in Sharm el-Sheik at around 6pm. My flight from Sharm el-Sheik was at 6am the next day. Few days before, I had found a CouchSurfing host. But I thought that it’d be inconsiderate to wake them up that early in the morning, so I decided to spend the night at the airport.

Sharm el-Sheik is the worst airport ever! It only had few coffee shops and none of it had wi-fi. The public telephones weren’t working. Once inside, there is no way you can contact the outside world. I borrowed the phone of a waiter at a cafe and called Melissa (my supposed-to-be host in Sharm el-Sheik) to let her know that I’d stay at the airport. It was fate that she would have to wake up early as well to go diving. Melissa and Daniel, her boyfriend, seemed to be really cool, so I decided to go to their place, and I couldn’t be happier about that decision. They are a down to earth couple who met when they were traveling, and now they are taking a short break from their travel in Egypt. Damn, why does this miracle never happen to me?

I left early next day to the airport. I was so sleepy that I forgot to ask about my connecting flight from Cairo to Ethiopia, and only checked in for Sharm el-Sheik – Cairo. Arriving in Cairo, I was about to go straight to the transfer zone when a guy told me that I had to collect my luggage and check in at the international airport. The reason why I booked the flight from Sharm el-Sheik is because I’m only allowed to go to Sinai (Sinai is a special economic zone of Egypt. Everybody is granted a free 14-day visa on arrival to visit Sinai only. To go to other parts of Egypt, like Cairo, you have to get an Egyptian visa). I arrived at the domestic airport which means there was no customs and before I knew it, I was out in Cairo. Excited, I called Amr – my ex-host and whose grandma I love as my own grandma. I just wanted to see them again. Hooka and Amr came to pick me up from the airport. Amr was worried about my situation:

- You’ll be illegal in Cairo, right?

- Yes.

- Are you sure you can go out?

- I don’t know. But if there is something wrong, I already did it. It makes no difference whether I stay back here or go to your place. I’m already outside the airport.

- What if they won’t let you check out?

-  Nah, they won’t keep me here, but they will probably interrogate me for a long time and fine me some money.

Talking bold like that but I was actually very worried. What if they keep me there for a long time and I miss flight? What if they fine me and I have no money to pay? Dat, my Vietnamese friend in Cairo, gave me the number of somebody from the Vietnamese embassy to call in case of trouble.

Hooka looked tired and angry because of the traffic. I offered him some water. He refused.

- It’s Ramadan.

- No, it’s just water.

- Hahaha – both Amr and Hooka laughed. – We can’t drink water.

OMG, so when they say you can’t drink during Ramadan, they actually mean water! I’d always thought that they meant alcohol. How the hell are you supposed to survive in this 45 degree desert weather? No wonder all people I met there looked they were about to faint.

My flight was at 2.50am but I wanted to get there early so that I could manage in case of trouble. Amr and his friend dropped me there, but it was too early that the check-in wasn’t open. I found a fancy cafe. Seeing me all gray and tired, the manager showed me a reclusive spot to sleep and even woke me up before my flight.

I put on my most loveable face and went through customs. The immigration officer looked at my passport, then immediately got up to see his manager.

5 minutes waiting for him was like a century. The guy behind me asked to borrow my last pen. I reminded myself to get it back. Pen is something trivia but very important, especially for those who take note a lot like me. But I was so nervous that I totally forgot about it. Finally he came back. He gave my passport to the next immigration officer and told me to wait on one side.

“Oh no, I’m doomed”. But just when I was about to have a heart attack, the other officer stamped my passport and gave it back to me. Woohoo, I was like running to the boarding gate! Goodbye Egypt, welcome Ethiopia!

Lesson to learn: So technically, everybody (even we Vietnamese) can enter Egypt without a visa if they arrive in Sinai! If you’re scared, enter from Sinai (Taba border, Sharm el-Sheik aiport, etc.), travel around Egypt and exit again from Sinai. Just DO NOT tell the immigration officer that you want to travel outside Sinai. Nobody will check your passport once you are inside Egypt.

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11
Jul

Good morning, ‘Nam

   Posted by: Chip    in Vietnam

As I travel further and further, venturing into the areas where my fellow Vietnameses would normally avoid at all cost, I find myself to be the first Vietnamese many have ever met. People tend to ask me a lot of questions about Vietnam, and it surprises me a great deal how little people know about Vietnam other than just the war. Many also tend to associate my erratic and annoying behaviors with a typical Vietnamese. Fortunately (as many Vietnamese might think), I’m nowhere close to what they think as typical. To avoid wrong impressions and save myself from repetition, I’m trying my best to provide un-biased answers to some of the most asked questions about Vietnam. Feel free to ask if you have any other question.

What is Vietnam?

It’s a country, NOT a city in China or Europe (Vienna).

Where is Vietnam?

Vietnam is located in Southeast Asia, bordered by China to the north, Laos to the northwest, Cambodia to the southwest, and the Southeast Asia Sea (formerly South China Sea), referred to as East Sea to the east.


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How big is Vietnam?

In term of area, we are the 65th biggest country in the world. But don’t let it fool you. In term of population, we are the 13th largest in the world with 90 millions people.

Do I speak Chinese?

I look like Chinese, I don’t have to speak Chinese. If I meet a Chinese, he’ll probably just assume that I’m a retarded kid who’s unable to speak and be nice to me.

It amuses, and sometimes annoys me when people know that I’m from Vietnam but still try out all sorts of words they’ve picked up from their travel elsewhere in Asia: Ni hao, Sawasdee, Konnichiwa, etc. Guys, even though all Asians look the same, we DON’T speak the same language! Vietnamese is different from Chinese, Chinese is different from Thai, Japanese is different from Korean, etc. I find it offensive when people assume that people speak Chinese in Vietnam. Despite 1000 years under the domination of China, our ancestors managed to keep our own language, and I’m proud of it.

How do people in Vietnam look?

They look like me: short, dark chinky eyes, small noses, dark hair, colored skin. Vietnamese girls are stunning. Vietnamese guys are, uhmm, asian.

A friend once asked me if I’m considered beautiful in Vietnamese standard, and I couldn’t answer it? Am I?

Am I from North Vietnam or South Vietnam?

If you are thinking of North Korea and South Korea, you probably haven’t read news since 1975. There is no war in my country and there is only one Vietnam! If you want to know my hometown, I was born in a small town in Nam Dinh, Northeast of Vietnam.

Is Vietnam a communist country?

Yes. It’s Socialist Republic of Vietnam.

Am I communist?

Ha, it depends on how you define “communist”. I generally like sharing things. But if I had a choice, I’d prefer being a dictator.

Do I hate Americans?

Personally, I do. But generally, Vietnameses love Americans. Americans in particular and Caucasians in general are treated like kings in Vietnam. They get paid 5 times higher doing the same job. There have been an endless number of articles about how foreigners receive much better services in Vietnam.

There is no trace of war in Vietnam nowadays, mind you. 60% Vietnamese population were born after the war had ended, and economic opportunities with America are the best conciliation.

Are people in Vietnam rich?

Some are. Even though Vietnam is one of the fastest growing economies in the world in the past decade, it is still a third world country with 10.6% of the population lives under the poverty line ($1/day). Vietnam’s nominal GDP per capita of $1,060, which means an average person makes like $1000/year (not month). There is no such thing as per hour wage because it’s too minimal to mention. So yes, I’m poor!

But like any other developing country, there is a huge gap between rich and poor people. There is a group of young Vietnamese who studied overseas and work for MNC who make 10, 20 times as much as their domestically educated counterparts. Because Vietnam has just opened its door to the world, there are a lot of opportunities to make money there.

Do people in Vietnam travel?

Due to the lack of finance and difficult visa policies, people in Vietnam don’t travel overseas that much. If they do, they normally choose Southeast Asian countries (free 30 day visa), or Europe and America (so that they can spend their money faster). I’m really not Vietnamese in this case. I once met an American who has been in Vietnam. He was shocked to believe that I’m from Vietnam: “Can’t believe that I’ll live to see a Vietnamese backpacker!”

Is Vietnam good to travel?

Yes, definitely!

Vietnam is a long and narrow country. It is only 50 kilometers wide (east to west) at the narrowest point, but 1,650 kilometers long (north to south). Half of Vietnam’s border is coastline, giving us an amazing coastline of 3,260 kilometers with a lot of islands. Nowhere is too far away from the beach. Fish and other seafood are almost staple food in every household. Go to Vietnam and you’ll have the most awesome seafood treat at an amazingly cheap price.

If you love fishing, Vietnam is the place to be. There is squid fishing in Ha Long bay: you hop on a cruise boat and go for an overnight trip into the sea, fish for squid with bamboo rods using unique techniques, then come back with squid salad in the morning. Or if you are in group, you can rent a boat and go fishing yourself. The boat comes with a cook and a captain. They will take you to a place where the fish are really stupid. The cook will cook and serve the fish you catch right on the boat. There are swimmers who swim around with a bucket full of different kinds of seafood. If you want something, you can just call out to them and they will swim to your boat to sell you things.

You can also do sandboarding in Vietnam. Unlike sandboarding in Egypt or other countries where you have to venture deep into the dessert under the burning hot, the sand dunes in Vietnam are very close to the beach. You can roll yourself in the sand and jump into blue water right after that. Windsurfing and kitesurfing are also very popular.

As the country stretches through 16 latitudes with virgin jungles, mountain ranges and beaches, Vietnam is ranked 16th in biological diversity. Everything changes as you travel from North to South and vice versa: the climate, the nature, the food, the people. In the North, we have four season a year with a short winter while in the South, we only have two seasons: the raining season and dry season. People in different regions eat different food, making Vietnam one of the countries with the most diverse cuisine. The people are also different from North to South, with people in the South are understood to be much more open-minded, people in North are more traditional, elegant while people in the Central are known for bravery and diligence. Even though we speak the same language, people have different accents from the North to South, sometimes we can’t understand each other.

The only reason that might turn you off is the hassle. Beggars, peddlers will attack you everywhere. Vietnam has the worst customer services. In India or Nepal, they will hassle you as well, but they won’t get mad at you if you don’t buy their stuff. But in Vietnam, they will shout and scream at you as if you are the one who cheats them. A friend of mine told me that even though Vietnam is very beautiful, it’s the country that leaves him the worst impression and he tries his best to warn his friends not to go there. As a traveler, I understand how he feels and I feel ashamed for that.

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