Just as I thought, the road from Isiolo to Nairobi was smooth. I hitchhiked with a bus from Isiolo to Meru, with a car from Meru to Kobo, and then with a pickup from Kobo to Nairobi. Meme, the driver, is a university professor in Nairobi. He came back to Kobo to visit his family. He usually picks up passengers to share the gas, but he picked me up for free, bought me lunch and even paid for my transport from his home in Nairobi to where I was supposed to meet Mwega, founder of Karika, the organization I was going to volunteer with.
How I got to know Karika was an interesting story. Free Hugs Vietnam works with an American NGO called HOW. HOW’s director, Ms. Amazing Hillary, has a partner in Ireland called Niamh. When I started my trip, Hillary asked many of her friends to help me, and Niamh introduced me to Karika. Karika basically saved my life when I first arrived in Nairobi.
Mwega and Karika’s secretary, Violet, picked me up from Hilton hotel. I made it to Nairobi just few hours before my birthday with almost nothing in my pocket. I was over the moon. All I wanted now was a good shower, a good dinner and nothing else would matter.
They took me back to Violet’s place. She lives in a slum area called Kawangware with her two sons: 15 y/o Kale and 11 y/o Hamfari (whose name I thought at first was ‘I’m free’). The 9m2 room was divided into two parts by a wattle wall, the outside part serves as the living room, while the inside serves as the bedroom-cum-kitchen. The living room has a small set of sofa, and a tiny TV. The bedroom has 2 small bunk beds for the kids and one slightly bigger one for Violet. When I was there, Kale slept on the couch to give me his bed. I was deeply touched. I couldn’t thank them enough.
After 5 days 4 nights on the road, I was coated in dust and smelt like sour dough. I desperately needed a shower. I looked around for the sign of a bathroom but couldn’t find any. One hour later, still nobody mentioned anything about it. Unable to wait any longer, I asked for permission to use the toilet.
Violet’s face suddenly became pale. She gave Kale the flashlight to show me the toilet outside. It was a traditional Africa toilet, shared by a dozen of family. Next to it was a small empty room which I assumed to be used as the bathroom. Now I understood why nobody ever suggested me to take a bath. It was just impossible to take a bath at that time. No water no light.
Nothing else to do, I went to bed early after carefully cleansing my skin with some tissue so that the dust wouldn’t fall on my bed. I was waken up next morning by the suffocating smell of the oil cooking stove. Violet was making tea. She warmly welcomed me:
- Do you want to take a shower now?
- A million times YES.
And she gave me a bucket of 5 liters of water. There is no water to waste. Water only comes once a week. Violet stores it in two jerricans. I asked for a little more so that I could wash my hair as well, promising her that I wouldn’t take a shower the next day.
After a breakfast of milk tea and mandazi (sweet fried bread), Mwega and Violet took me to work. Karika stands for Kenyan Aged people Require Information, Knowledge and Advancement. They work with old people, providing them with information, consultancy and support. I was supposed to teach the management board how to use computer but they didn’t have electricity at the “office” (which is actually a hut sparsely put together), so most of the time, I just hang around the class. At that time, Karika was teaching handicraft to two dozens of youths who can’t afford to go to university. They asked me how old I was.
- 21. Actually I’m turning 21 today.
- Really? Today is your birthday? Are you going to buy us cakes?
Geez, I couldn’t even buy a cake for myself T_T I changed the topic. They asked what I was doing and I told them that I was doing a long trip.
- Wow, you are rich.
- No, not all travelers are rich. Actually I’m traveling with very little money.
- How can you buy flight tickets?
- I’m don’t fly. I travel by road, mostly hitchhiking.
- How about accommodation?
- I couchsurf. I mean, I stay at strangers’ houses for free.
- Are you kidding us? Chip, it’s ok if you don’t want to buy us cakes, but stop telling lies.
Offended, I tried my best to let out a faint smile and walked away. I couldn’t blame those kids. Years of colonial White-settlement created a racial chasm that still affects Africans nowadays: many of them believe all white people are walking money bags (I’m called “white” here). Those tourists who pour money carelessly on luxurious tours and local kids don’t make it any better. I went out to find an Internet cafe. To my utmost delight, a friend invited me for dinner to celebrate my birthday. I told Mwega that but he didn’t want me to go. He was worried about my safety. Nairobi, especially Kawangware, is not the best place to go around at night. He told me that Violet already cooked me dinner.
- Come on, she will be very upset if you don’t eat with her.
And we went home for my birthday dinner. Violet made ugali and cabbage, the same as what we had last night. Suddenly my heart broke into thousands of pieces. I knew it wasn’t easy for them to keep food on the table everyday, and I felt really bad that I couldn’t help them with anything. But I couldn’t hold myself up any longer. I finished the dinner and went to bed. Tears dwelt in my eyes. I cried and cried. I didn’t blame anybody, but I wished Mwega had let me go out for dinner instead of forcing me to eat at home. Self-pity? Yes. Bitterness? Yes. Oh Chip, you get what you deserve. It’s YOUR birthday, not MY birthday. Who gives a shit about you huh? Millions of people out there don’t even know who their parents are, let alone what day they were born. If you think you deserve something, go get it yourself. Nobody is obligated to make you happy. I felt more lonely than ever. I missed my family, I missed my friends. I almost convinced myself that the next day, I would rent an apartment and get out of here. Life here is just too hard.

My friend Pawel with the kids at the place where I was staying
But the next day as I woke up in the suffocating smell as usual, the broad smile on Violet and the kids’ faces struck me made me feel like a pussy. I had stayed there for only one night and already cried my heart out. They had been living there for ages and still think that there is no better place than home. A situation doesn’t define who you are, but the way you deal with it does. And apparently, they were dealing with it better than I was. I felt ashamed of myself. If they can live with this, so can I. I’m going to make myself get used to the “no water no light” life in this slum, I’m going to make the kids at the orphanage understand that you don’t have to be a money bag to travel, I’m going to teach Violet to use computer, and I’m going to learn Swahili to talk to the old people.
Challenge accepted!
Tags: Africa, Chip, Karika, Kawangware, Kenya, Nairobi, travel, Travel and Write, Travel Diary, Volunteer


























