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Please bear with me, it’s a long post. It’s a difficult topic to tackle, and I’m trying to find the most neutral way to put my thoughts down.

When I was in Israel, everybody told me not to go to Palestine. “Palestinians are bad people. They will mug you, they will kill you.” And when I was in Palestine, I heard the same thing about Israel. “Why would you want to go back to Israel. People there are horrible.” The truth is that I met amazing people in both places and had great experiences. But I had a hard time explaining to people I met there that those on the other side of the wall are also humans who are just trying to hold on to life. They also need to work to make a living, they also have a family to love, they want the same things we want and they are scared of the same things we are scared of.

I took me a lot of nerves to decide to travel in Africa. All I had ever heard of this continent before setting my foot here was famines, droughts, AIDS, rapes, human trafficking, tsetse and all kind of weird traditional practices. Only when I’m here that I realize that Africa is also a place to LIVE with its own charm and its own pace. Nobody can beat the Sudanese and the Malawian for their friendliness. No country can beat Kenya, Tanzania and South Africa for their vast wilderness. Ethiopia is second to none when it comes to traditional dance and music. Addis Ababa, Nairobi, Dar es Salaam, Lagos are among the fastest growing cities in the world. I stop judging circumcision or body scarification, but simply accept them as different facets of cultures.

There was one country I decided to skip out of fear: Somalia, a country whose name has been synonymized with crimes, rapes, war and piracy. But just few days ago, I met a 27 y/o girl who hitchhiked through Somali and Somaliland all by herself. She’s hardly any bigger than me, and her backpack is twice as big as she is. “This is absolutely an amazing country, people are very warm and friendly. I had no problem at all traveling there alone,” she told me.  I couldn’t help but laughing at myself. I thought that I knew something, yet I still let myself fall into the classic trap of media’s brainwash. Forget what you’ve been taught, forget what you’ve been made to read. You can never understand a place and its people until you are there.

I believe that mutual understanding is the key to world peace, and traveling gives you the first hand experience to really understand the world around us. As we understand more, we judge less. As we judge less, we are more willing to accept, rather than to hate or to be afraid of, the differences. We will not hate somebody just because they are of different color, different religion, or different culture. We will not let the bombings done by few people turn us against the whole nation. We will see people as what they really are, rather than what the media or the government wants us to believe.

I’ve realized that traveling is a powerful educational tool. I’ve learned more in the last 18 months of traveling than in 12 years of schools: about history, geography, politics, cultures, business and almost everything else. I’ve used super innovative web and services in India, as well as advanced technologies in Israel. I’ve learned about filming by couchsurfing with an ultra talented director in Pune (India), following an aspiring actress to a bunch of film sets in Mumbai (India), hanging around with a globe-trotting guerrilla filmmaking group in Mombasa (Kenya). I’ve learned about gambling by watching my friends playing poker for a living in Kathmandu (Nepal), by working at a casino here in Dar es Salaam (Tanzania). I’ve learned about Tibetan Buddhism by staying with a Tibetan family in Sikkim (India), by meeting Dalai Lama. I’ve learned to sail, I’ve learned to rock-climb, I’ve learned to cook dishes from different countries, I’ve learned to make my own jewelry from recycling materials. As I travel, I’m introduced to many amazing ideas that I had never heard of, or thought that they would be possible.

My decision to start traveling is the best decision I’ve ever made so far, as traveling really helps me grow up. Traveling exposes me to different situations that help me understand my true self. Traveling teaches me to be independent, to be easy-going, to be adaptable, and to be tolerant. As I travel, I have a chance to meet amazing people: those who teach me, those who inspire me, those who become my best friends and those whom I’ve fallen in love with.

I know, I’m just damn lucky to be among the 0.001% of youths from developing countries who have a chance to travel. Traveling is still a privilege of people from developed countries where they have better finance and better passports. It hurts me that many people my age will never make enough money to get out of their countries to see what the world is really like. Even if we do, most of the times we are put back by the mission impossible to get the necessary visa. Those who were born with American, European or Australian passports will never understand how painful it is to always have to apply for visas way in advance for every single country with little hope that your visas will be granted. You can’t be spontaneous. You have to spend a lot of money. You have to gather a lot of resources. It’s like we are being punished for what we have no control over: for being born in the wrong country, for being born to parents with the wrong citizenship.

I have a dream, ridiculous it might sound, that every youth from developing country who has the guts to travel will be able to do it. I propose the establishment of a foundation, called Traveling as an Equal Opportunity Foundation (TEOF), that will help youths to achieve their dreams.

Eligibility to become a TEOF youth:

- Youths between 18 and 25.

- Fluent in English.

- Wish to travel.

TEOF will do:

- Advocate for “traveling as an equal opportunity”: Ministry of Foreign Affairs of every country should make it possible for TEOF youths to obtain the necessary visa to travel in the country.

- Sponsor visas.

- Provide information and consultancy.

- Provide financial support (limited).

TEOF will be run by youths and for youths with local chapters all over the world. The local chapters will make sure that traveling youths in their locality are not doing anything illegal. TEOF will provide support and consultancy, but TEOF youths are expected to be responsible for their own safety and finance.

Everything is still in the brainstorming stage. It will take a lot of effort and time, especially the first goal. We need your help. To show your support, please petition here.

Feedbacks are more than welcome.

Broke like a church mouse (as usually), I knew that the first thing I had to do in Tanzania was to find a job. A travel agent promised me 5000 Tsh/day ($1 ~ 1700 Tsh)  to do something on computers, but he required me to do a “night interview” so that he could “get to know me better”. $3/day with a creepy boss? I’d rather enslave myself to a rich bald white yacht owner so that at least I could travel around with him.

All the decent places asked me for a work permit, and the rest just gave me a salary that would barely keep me alive, let alone giving me some saving to go to the next country. I was wandering around when I saw the big flashy billboard advertising the biggest casino in Tanzania. Like a moth to a flame, I followed the signs and found myself in front of a casino. Before the security guy could stop me, I walked towards him and asked to meet the manager.

- Which manager?

- The biggest one.

- You have an appointment?

- No.

I thought that he would have probably thrown me out by now, but he talked to somebody on his walkie-talkie and told me to me to wait. Soon, I was led in to meet a tall blond lady with a Russian accent. I told her that I wanted a job. She looked at me from tip to toe:

- Well, we are actually looking for a microphone girl. You saw all the girls in the casino now? She has to be prettier.

- …

- I think you could be pretty. But now you look like a hobo. Come back tomorrow, all dressed up so that I could see and judge.

I came back the next day. I proudly told the security guy that this time I had an appointment. He called the general manager. Judging from the conversation, it seemed like she had totally forgotten me. But he told me to wait anyway. “For how long?”. He shrugged. So I bitterly waited. Finally she appeared with a microphone and told me to say something to everybody there.

- What should I say?

- Like welcoming everybody and introducing yourself.

So here I was, in a casino, having no idea what was going on but forced to speak on a microphone while everyone around was staring at me. But well, if you have to do it, do it fast. I had no idea what I was rumbling. It must be pretty awful, ‘cos the GM laughed.

- Well, at least you are not microphone shy. Wait, I need to figure something out before I can offer you anything.

15 mins later, she called me into her room.

- We need you here 3 days a week, 3 hours a day from 9 to 12. It doesn’t pay much, but we don’t ask for much from you either. Are you sure you want to work with that amount of money?

She must have felt really sorry for me. Anyone who has been to Dar in the last year will understand how ridiculously expensive things here have become. To have a comfortable life here, you need at least $1500/month.

- For me at the moment, working is not all about making money, but rather about collecting stories. And I think a casino is where I can find some interesting stories. (Damn, what the hell was going on in my head at that time!!!? I should have bargained for more eh).

She smiled and handed me a brown envelope.

- Good. Here are few hundreds bucks. Go and buy yourself some nice dresses and makeup so that you could look like a girl. Remember, your job is to become the most beautiful girl in the casino.

That’s how my job at the casino started. Actually, “job” is too fancy a word for what I’m doing there. Other than being the MC for about 10 minutes every day, the rest of my job is basically just walking around and looking pretty. It’s such a no-brainer that I’m pretty sure if chimpanzees look good, I’d probably lose my job to one of them.

Something that rather put me off on my first day at work, but I’ve gotten used to is that 90% people there think that I’m a prostitute. My job involves a lot of talking with all the big players, and as a consequence, I’m having few millionaires, and even billionaires, offering me “friendship” with a lot of financial benefits. I never give my number to anybody there, but the managers there do.

- Sorry Chip. They are the biggest players. We have to give them whatever they ask for.

So when they call, I just plainly tell them that I’m not selling my body.

After being rejected several times, a billionaire told me:

- What’s wrong with you, Chip? Girls can kill to be in your position. When opportunities arrive, you have to put your principles away.

- Nothing’s wrong with me, Sir. If I were desperate and that were my only way out, I’d probably take it. But now I’m happy with what I have, why should I force myself to do things that I don’t like?

(to be continued)

31
Oct

On the Road

   Posted by: Chip Tags: , , , , ,

On the bus to Yabello, it struck me how different the bus conductor looked from the rest of us. He looked comfortable. While everyone was trying to fit ourselves in, some held their bags tight, some looked around warily, some stirred restlessly in their seats; the bus conductor just sat there, leisurely looking out of the window. He knew the bus, he knew where it was going to, he knew what he was supposed to do and what to expect out of it. On his bus, he had nothing to be scared of.
Each of us is comfortable where we belong to.
A bus conductor is comfortable on the bus.
A sailor is comfortable on the boat.
A traveler is comfortable on the road.
I’m comfortable on the road.
I might not know where I am going to, but I know that I’m "going". Somewhere.
“If you don’t know where you want to go, any road will take you there.”

I’m devastated.

It was a long day, the longest day of my life: getting lost in an island, a fight, 2 police stations and being robbed by a group of 6 men with knives, losing my camera and all money I had left.

I woke up early in the morning. It was only 5am, so I decided to take a walk around Lamu island for the last time before heading back to Mombasa. The walk was nice, until I went deep inside the island and got terribly lost. The short walk turned out to take more than 4 hours. I was so tired that I had to knock on a house’s to ask for some water. The house owner gave me a glass of water, not clear but white, and I could see all the nasty things swimming inside. But I was too thirsty and too polite to decline. It tasted like washing detergent.

I came back to where I was staying on the island to get my stuff. There I had a fight with the house owner over the bill. He told me a price when I came, but when I checked out he asked for another price. I was so tired and just wanted to get back to Mombasa, so I paid him anyway. I left feeling like an idiot. Later, probably ridden with guilt, he called me to apologize. He said that since I looked so sad, I must have told the truth and he must have told me the other price but forgotten. He offered me 2 days staying for free, but I was already on a boat to the mainland, and wasn’t ready to face any other kind of treachery.

I reached Lamu mainland at around 10am. Lamu is on Somalia – Kenya border, and since the recent war between these two countries, the road from Lamu back has been the main target of Somali terrorists. All vehicles that go through this way have to have at least 2 armed escorts. When I came, I tried to hitchhike but failed since there was no traffic at all. But this time, having already spent more money than I should, I made up my mind that I’d hitchhike back to Mombasa. I got a ride with a jeep to Mokowe, a small town around 5km from the jetty. From there, I walked. There was absolutely no car. There was no moving things on the road apart from occasional monkeys. I found myself in the middle of a jungle. The sun was getting hot, my water was running low and my skin was getting burnt. But I was in a very good mood. I’ve always had a thing for the road, and being on the road again made me happy. I was also kind of looking forward to being back in Mombasa. I played my favorite songs and screamed along on top of my lung. The monkeys stared at me. I walked like that, singing and dancing on my toes, for around 1h until finally I got a ride on the back of a pickup truck. The road was awful, loads of potholes. I tried my best not to get thrown out of the truck. The car stopped in Mpeketoni. I joined the driver for lunch. Here he started asking stupid questions.

- Where are you from?

- Vietnam.

- Do you know history?

- I’m aware of it. Yeah?

- You know about the war with America? How was it?

- What do you mean how was a war? It was a freaking war, of course it wasn’t fun.

- Do you know why you won the war?

- Because we were good.

- No, because you were lucky. The jungle helped you.

Jesus Christ, I hated this kind of conversation. I hate people talking about our war as if they knew it. He then started asking about my trip. I told him that I’m traveling by hitchhiking, but he didn’t answer the word so I said “walking and asking cars for lifts”.

- You must not be serious. People really give you lifts?

- You saw me walking, and you gave me a lift.

- I’m stopping here. How are you going to get from here to Mombasa.

- The same way.

- No, you can’t walk from here. It’s too far.

- Of course I can.

- You are not allowed to. This is not a safe area.

- Who doesn’t allow me to?

- Me.

- Excuse me, I’m the only one who has the right to decide. I walk where I want to.

- You can walk, but you’ll have to sign a paper that if something happens to you, our hands are clear.

- I’m not gonna sign any paper. If you are afraid of responsibility, I’m leaving now.

I got mad. I hate it when people decide what I can do and what I cannot. I’d rather starve than to have to stand that paranoia through the lunch. I stood up and left. That man called the police. A policeman on motorbike approached me when I was walking.

- Excuse me ma’am, can I see your ID?

- No, there is no reason why I should show my ID to a random policeman. It’s not even a checkpoint.

- Ma’am, can you stop for a minute?

- No.

I kept on walking. The guy followed me for like 15mins. Then he parked his bike somewhere, another policeman joined him and they both walked after me. They grabbed my backpack:

- Ma’am, you have to stop. We need to search you.

I took off my backpack and left it to them.

- Take it and keep it safe. I’ll get it later, if anything is missing, you’ll have to pay for it.

So they were carrying my backpack and walking after me while I was shouting at them all the way.

- It’s offensive. You don’t stop random tourists and ask to search them as if they were criminals. I have traveled a long way and I have never been treated like this.

I wasn’t offended. I know I was being an asshole, even though I don’t quite know why. Finally their boss came, and he really stopped me.

- You are under arrest.

So I had to follow them to the police station. There they searched my backpack but I wasn’t very co-operative.

- You take them out, you have to put them back.

There were a dozen of men in their office and none seemed to be working. All of them gathered around and inspected every single item of my backpack. They found a tampon.

- What is it?

- A tampon.

- What is it for? It looks like a candy. – One of them held it up and sniffed it. Oh geez, do I really have to do it, in front of 12 inquisitive African guys?

- It’s for a girl when she has period. I hope you know what “period” means, ‘cos I really don’t want to explain it. – I laughed so hard that I almost fell off the table (I was sitting on a table). – And for God’s sake, stop smelling it.

I was carrying a bag of salt. They found it but probably thought it was heroine or something.

- What is it?

I decided to use it for my own amusement.

- Find it out yourselves.

So they all put their faces close down to the table, sniffed it, touched it but too scared to taste it. Finally, a man gathered all his courage to taste it:

- It’s salty. – He frowned, probably trying to think of any drug he knew that tasted salty. I couldn’t hold myself back anymore. I burst into laughing.

- Of course it’s salty. It’s salt.

After that came the interrogation which they called “interview”. I told them that I’m from Rainbow island and gave them all kinds of fancy names for whatever they asked and they totally bought it. Finally they were done. But I didn’t want to leave like that. I decided that I’d give them a harder time than they gave me.

- You made me late. I’m gonna be stuck in the middle of nowhere in the dark. You won’t want to be responsible if anything bad happens to me.

- We will put you on a bus.

- Are you going to pay for it as well.

So they put me on a bus and paid for the ticket. I reached Mombasa at around 9pm. In Mombasa, I was staying with a CouchSurfer called Philip. He told me that he and his roommate were cooking dinner and watching fireworks. It was Diwali, the festival of lights in Hinduism and Mombasa is full if Indians. I was too excited when I got the bus that I didn’t notice where I was heading to. I was just thinking to myself: “This road is kind of dark, I should take a matatu” when a group of guys approached me. One of them pushed me down on the ground and held me down with his knife. The others took away the camera bag. I ran after them and shouted. I stripped and twisted my ankle. I lost them. There were a bunch of security men in front of a hotel. I shouted at them in vain.

- What the hell is wrong with you? There are tens of strong men in freaking security uniforms, and a bunch of thieves ran right in front of your nose and none of you stopped them? Not that you didn’t know, I was shouting thief all the way.

- Sorry Ma’am, they have knives.

I felt more vulnerable and lonely than ever. I just sat there in front of the hotel, didn’t know what to do. I was still shocked to walk back alone, and didn’t have money to take a taxi as all my cash was lost with the camera bag. Somebody called the police. They came pick me up and took me to the police station to report. “Shit happens. 2 robbery in 1 week are too much, but at least I’m safe.” – I gathered all my leftover strength to act normal and smile. I hadn’t eaten anything since the morning. All I wanted to do was to get back to Philip’s place, take a good rest for few days to recover then decide what to do next. The police dropped me at Philip’s place at around 11pm. He welcomed me with the worst news ever:

- Kenya is in war with Somalia. The company is pulling us out. We will be evacuated tomorrow.

That means I’ll have to find another place to stay tomorrow. I’m too weak to hit the road again, too tired of this city to stay any longer, and too broke to afford a rest in a hotel.

I feel more lonely and vulnerable than ever.

I’m tired, but can’t sleep. I’m afraid, I won’t be able to face what is to come tomorrow.

Supervisor at a cafeteria called Ice Blue – just 15 mins walking from Mika’s place.

1000 Bir (~$55) + free food. 2 days a week I can order anything from the menu and the rest of the week 3 tough meals a day. The salary for 1 month here is like 1 hour pay in Israel.

And that salary is already 4 times more than a normal waiter.

If I spend absolutely nothing which is apparently impossible, I’ll have to work for 6 whole months to save $300 to go Kenya.